3.02.2011

Whiney rant...

party barn
If you follow me on twitter, you probably already know that I spent the better part of yesterday crying like a baby. It looks like our farmhouse sold to a cash buyer. I had called to make an appointment with our agent so that my parents could look at it and help us appraise the mechanical systems and look for any structural issues (my dad's a long-time contractor). Our agent called back and wham! Gone! And then me crying...all afternoon. I know that another house will come along and I do believe that's true, but I wanted this. I also know that it's not really about the house. Like many of you, PRH and I have spent the last ten years moving from place to place to place for school and work and I thought that we'd be more settled by now. I mean that in the 'we have two kids and we finally know what the hell we're doing' sense. We may have two babies, but we have no idea what the heck we're doing! I want to know what school EZ E will be going to next year. I want to do crazy things to concrete floors. I want to learn a short cut to our house. I want to get to know my mail carrier. I want a freaking party barn!!! I know, I know...I want, I want, I want. Bad form. Sorry! Other people have waaayyyy more problems than we do right now, but I just need to feel sorry for myself today. Someday, when we do throw an awesome housewarming party in the barn of our future, you'll all be invited. In the meantime, I'll be wearing my pajamas and moping around our house all day. Oh, and enjoying the picture below that EZ E drew of me with my, as he explained, "long boobs that hang over your big belly". Add a little salt to any wounds today, EZ E? Actually, it's one of the few things that made me laugh. Those are some nice-looking, albeit pointy, boobs...

kids drawing
*top image found via bloomerism via style me pretty. Please let me know if you know the original source.*

15 comments:

Kathleen said...

So sorry to hear about the farmhouse. that just means something better is waiting out there for you!
kids are hysterical with the pictures they do. Their take on things is amazing and makes me smile!
strap up those long boobs and mourn as long as you like!=)

kathleen xx

Kym said...

I am sorry to hear that you lost your dream house....I would probably be doing the same thing! Enjoy your moping day...we all deserve days like that!

Julie Wasson said...

If it makes you feel any better, my son drew a picture of me going pee and it is obvious that I have a p-n-s!! I admit, I saved it.
I also lost my dream farm house last year. I have had my eye on it forever and if it had gone up for sale next year instead of last year we could have bought it. say la vee (I dont know how to spell that in French)

Patti B said...

i'm really sad with you. that is a horrible feeling. it's pretty near impossible to not get excited about an old house and big gardens and all that possibility. the good thing is an even more perfect property will come along just when it's supposed to. ha! that drawing is awesome!

Angeline said...

Doh! We have an old barn (of which we've never had a party in as it's crammed full of stuff) and we often have that - we're going to be HOW old and we're STILL working on our childhood dreams? I guess it's the process? Sometimes the process BITES!

Lauren said...

Oh, I know your pain! I went through it several times last year when we were looking, and at the time it was even more intense because the end of the tax-credit was approaching and people were VULTURES. There was one house that was "snatched" from under us, and another that the owner really didn't even want to sell, and I cried about them both. In retrospect, it is clear that the first one was on too busy a street with an awful parking situation, and the second needed a new roof and would have had to been KILLZed everywhere because the owner smelled. What I'm saying is, it WILL work out, and when you find the house you love, you won't have to go back and forth so much, because you'll probably just know. People said stuff like this to me throughout the entire process, so I remember thinking how BS-ish it sounds, but now I've joined the chorus. It is totally allowable to be in a funk for a while, pointy boobs and all.

brandi k. said...

House-buying is a vortex of hope, uncertainty, disappointment, possibility, uncertainty, frustration, a speck of elation, and uncertainty. Vent all you need!

A Beautiful Party said...

it must be in the air. i had my eye on taking ownership of a coffee stand that has been out of business for THREE YEARS!! When I finally called to inquire I was informed someone was opening it next month. I mean really...
So sorry for your house. Don't feel bad for a bit of moping.

Heather Rose Chase said...

I so feel your pain! My husband and I have been married 15 years and we've moved 12 times, all over the world. We still don't own a house or even have pets (I try not to count my two boys as "monkeys"). I look at my peers from high school (thanks Facebook) who own homes with white picket fences and dogs and have such stable lives and wonder where we went wrong. And then I remember... oh yeah... Even though we've moved 12 times, we have lived all over the world and there's no way I'd trade the experiences that our family has had for something silly like a house! One of these days we'll be able to save up and stay in one place long enough to buy. Not getting what you think you want can be a great gift... but you never look at it that way until much later. I'm pulling for you! I'm thinking a Madonna-style cone bra would be just the thing for those pointy boobs! Love it!

Ajay said...

Be as sad as you like, for as long as you need to. But... I think you dodged a bullet. YOUR house is still out there waiting for you!

FightLikeAGirl said...

I know exactly how you are feeling! I bought our house last August of 2009 and I looked at many houses and even LOVED one of them (which also sold to a cash buyer! Who the eff has that much CASH?!)but when I walked into this house, I fell in love love. Like huge! And bam! Smitten kitten more every day. Chicken coop is built now (chickens coming next weekend), amazing kitchen, sweet gardening spaces, garage, 9 blocks from downtown, etc etc...all sorts of great stuff...all that wasn't in the other houses that I got out bid on, etc. Sending you hugs!!!!

mixette said...

Oh no! Nothing is more stressful than buying/selling real estate - the highs, the lows, the gut wrenching suspense. But you'll do it, and end up with the perfect place for you all.

At first I thought that was an Outstanding in the Field (you know - farm dinners?) table, but then noticed the numbers and thought: wedding...

For Christmas this year my mom gave me a box of my kid drawings - I am 40-ish - and it is the BEST present I've ever gotten. Love Love Love Ez E's!

Stacy said...

Hallelujah, Abbey - thanks for saying it: "I just need to feel sorry for myself today." That's okay, because your situation isn't fun, it isn't fair and you are wonderful and deserve to mope.

I'm having that same crummy real estate + stupid situations pity party this evening. Feeling bad, and not wanting to be dealing with anything positive is okay because
you have to work through the mope, to find the hope. And the perfect most wonderful house, that you can paper with all the pictures that your hilarious EZ E creates while enjoying your cement floors.

Emma at The Marion House Book said...

hey, i''m looking forward to that barn party!

another place will show up. i believe that houses are sort of destined for us so this one obviously wasn't meant to be.

and that drawing is priceless - puts a smile on my face too.

moomi said...

oh poo!
i know the feeling of loosing the house (or in this case, barn) of your dreams :(
i do, however, love the picture of you and your pointy boobs ;)
aren't kids just the best at cheering us up when we need it most?
:D
hang in there!
x candice x

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