7.23.2010

This weekend...


We are NOT doing anything fun tomorrow. Instead, PRH committed us to a birthday party/memorial at my sister-in-law's parents' house. Did you get all that? Egads. It's my sister-in-law's mother's birthday and a memorial for her grandfather who died last winter. Here's my question: who combines a birthday party with a memorial for their grandfather?!**

Here I am at the "party": Happy birthday! (happy voice) Sorry your dad died. (sad voice)

The whole event should be a blast (not really...that was my sad voice). I'm glad that my sister-in-law doesn't read my blog (happy voice). Have a great weekend and be happy that you don't have to attend any wacky parties. If you do, please feel free to share.

*image by
hellojenuine (aka artist Jen Collins)
**OK, I'm being a jerk. I get the whole celebration of life thing. I really just don't want to go.

10 comments:

Abby said...

I really hope your sister-in-law doesn't suddenly decide to look up your blog. (nervous voice) :) Good luck with the party.

speck said...

However: I think people [well American culture, mostly at least] directly associate death and dying with morbidity. When my grandfather died (the DAY before my brothers wedding!!!!!), we all went to his funeral and sat in front of him, calling up memories and laughing/crying, celebrating his beautiful life and how lucky we felt to be a part of it.

After we buried him, the thing I took away from it was admiration. Is it possible to lead such a life that ultimately becomes a party at the very end? It literally was the best funeral I have ever been too, strange as that sounds. I decided that is how I want my funeral to be...a celebration of life rather than a room full of weeping willows who brought their stinky lilies and selfish good-byes.

Raise a glass! Part of celebrating life (birthday) IS ALSO celebrating death!

Roseanna said...

We always called them "the duty" visits in our family.
Hey, you never know it might be fun at the very least it will give you a wealth of material (hopeful voice)!

P.S. The children may like it anyway, different relationship for them...

Ali - YumVeggieBurger said...

my grandfather's funeral was actually on the day of my mom's birthday, but because he had died months earlier (buried in arlington cemetery so there was a waiting period) the whole day wasn't as sad as it would have been earlier, and i think i remember we had birthday cake at dinner afterwards.

Aesthetic Outburst... said...

Abby, no worries. I wouldn't say anything here that I wouldn't be willing to say to her. :)

Speck, you are right. Celebrating life is important and I agree that folks can be too morbid about death.

Roseanna, you nailed it. A wealth of material is right.

Ali, I'm hoping it won't be a sad event but, knowing my SIL, I don't think that will be the case.

Stacy said...

I can so relate! Yay to getting through odd family gatherings.

More importantly, thanks for the laugh. And, good luck.

(PS. I've been reading your blog for a little over a year now, and always enjoy the posts it delivers to my reader.)

DawnMarie said...

This post me laugh. I married into a family who, well lets just say are, "different". This is exactly the type of family function they would do. And have no idea that others may not find it normal.

All my friends have normal mother in laws. I get a moon bat. So, I am sorry but I do find comfort in knowing someone else is dealing with similar issues.

Anonymous said...

This post has had me had me laughing all day....I read some of your funnier posts to my daughters...they really enjoyed the
"front porch/payhouse/poop/salesman" incident 2010... and now they are singing..."Happy Birthday to you, sorry your Dad died.." to crack me up. they are down with the black humor.
ps.. this is jenny beedon snow- but don't have an account

Amy said...

I wouldn't want to go, either. Just too odd for me. Hope it was better than you thought it would be!

Anna said...

we had a party on Sunday to celebrate my Mam-maws 10 year mark on her passing away. It was actually fun! We even made jello with carrots and peas in it just like she used to make us eat.

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